There is that old saying: ‘Life is like a rollercoaster. It has its ups and downs. But it’s your choice to scream or enjoy the ride’. And I am sure you heard this one: ‘Life is like the ocean. It can be calm or still, and rough or rigid, but in the end, it is always beautiful’. Or ‘Life is like a book, some pages are sad, some are happy…’
Should I continue? (please no)
You’ve got the point that there are plenty of interesting and very beautiful metaphors about life, where you can find it being compared with an elevator, mountains, pen, books, cycle and so on and so on. But despite different objects that our life is being compared with there is one thing that connects all the dots – life has its ups and downs.
We do not live the same day twice. Weather is always changing, we see and meet different people, we do different things, and obviously our thoughts and feelings are different.
We all have days when everything is going perfectly – we woke up early and full of energy, no misunderstandings at work, kids are acting like angels, no one’s late, and your bagel just got toasted perfectly. But there are many days when we wake up and feel like… Going back to bed?!
Sometimes we get caught into a never ending circle of rush, struggle, work, stress, and home stuff, and family stuff. We stop listening and taking care of ourselves, sometimes telling something bad about how we deal with the situation, how we look, eat, or act.
And sometimes it just happens that we found ourselves in a state where nothing seems ok.
It is very important to understand that we all are going through something in our personal lives that change our inner state of being and there is nothing wrong with that. Life is like a roller coaster, after hitting the bottom the wagon goes up.
Negative emotions can arise and go away naturally without any effort, but sometimes we need a little extra help to pick ourselves back up again.
I know we are all very different people and what works for one, can work completely opposite for another, but here is what I discovered to be the most effective ways to cheer myself up when I feel a little bit less energised and when I need a little boost.
HOW TO PICK YOURSELF UP?
1. Let it be.
There is nothing worse than trying to fight against reality. It’s like going outside with a weak umbrella on a stormy day – the gust of wind will catch it and reverse it to the other side (how annoying is that??). I talked about it on my blog earlier, but if you haven’t read any of my posts I will tell you – resistance and rebellion creates more chaos than peace.
Step away from your ego, put aside all the emotional labels, create space for your thoughts and feelings, and name the situation. What is that? Where are you standing now? What’s wrong?
The reality is what it is and there is no need to fight against that. Inhale deeply and let the situation BE.
2. Be in the moment.
Sometimes we are running our lives like crazy, taking care of everyone around us, carrying work problems everywhere we go, stressing too much about the little things, pressuring ourselves for everything we do (or don’t), and I shouldn’t even mention the sleep… Sometimes life gets too much. And at the same time too little.
Due to the rules of life that society created for us we forget that we need to… LIVE. We run around mindlessly and sometimes we don’t even understand why we do what we do. So it is no surprise that we lose ourselves and start feeling empty, sad or depressed.
But if we would wake up, breathe in, and just sit still in the moment, notice where you are, what you have, what are you thinking of, everything would change. Those mindful moments are the one and only LIVING moments. Connect with yourself, connect with your breath. Look around how much you have and how awesome you are.
Be here and now.
3. Those little things.
I think we all have movies that we could watch over and over again. Songs that were forgotten, but makes our heart jump once heard. Books that we would wish to read for the very first time again. People that make our life a little bit better and souls a little bit fuller. Or places that make us wish to live forever.
I believe that we all have something that makes us feel happy to be alive. And I believe you know those little things that sparks something inside of you. So when you feel disconnected, upset or need a little ‘pick me up’, even if you have no time or think it’s silly – do it!
Shake that booty, read those quotes, write that silly poem, sing that song, check 15 year old pictures, create, draw, run, walk…
Do those little things. Do whatever makes your soul happy.
4. Accept your feelings.
We were born in a society full of rules and restrictions and we were thought to do things that restrict our full experience. We grow up and our true self is suppressed somewhere in between the rules that our society created.
We can’t express ourselves in a way we feel we should be expressing. We do not talk about our feelings and experiences. We create fake identities and hide the one we truly are. There are a lot of people who spend their whole lives by not knowing who they are, just blindly following the rules.
We create more struggle and stress for ourselves by trying to pretend we are robots that have everything together. It is in our nature to have thoughts and feel emotions. It is absolutely normal to feel anger, shame or jealousy. It is OK to be sad or want to be alone.
Accept the fact that you are a human being who has a complicated brain which sometimes thinks too much, and allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. It will be easier, I promise.
5. Love yourself.
Because love is all you are.
And besides all of it, you can always write a message to me! I am here to listen.
Talk to you soon!