There are so many different people in this world. Each and everyone has their own qualities, their own opinion, their own way of doing things, and living their life. But also, when you think about other people, even about your friends, you don’t need to think a lot before describing them in a few words, like – party people, spiritual ones, vegans, wild ones, good people, nerds and so on. You can even create scenarios of their life, their personalities and how they HAVE to behave in your imagination. In other words, we put people in different boxes and expect them to live life in a one certain way. But that means that if we unconsciously think like that about other people that also means that we try to put ourselves into a certain boxes, and hope that we won’t cross the line, doesn’t it?
There are a lot of different boxes that I tried to fit myself in, but most of my life I was trying to fit into a ‘’good girls’’ box (which is the worst of all I think). Being a ‘’good girl’’ means that you often hide your opinion in order not to hurt people, you hide your voice and let others be in a spotlight, you protect and do not judge people even if it hurts, and walk with your head down and be invisible. That kind of person who doesn’t create any problems. Wants peace and quiet and does everything to keep it that way. That kind of person who says and does nothing at all. I was just hoping that one day maybe I will end up somewhere without no one around to bother and finally I will have a chance to take a big breath of fresh air.
Also, another mistake was thinking that I have to find my one and only path and stay on it for the rest of my life. I think a very good example of that are doctors, because I think most of them knew where their life was going since very young age, so they took one path and kept on going till today. But I never knew where I wanted to be or what I wanted to do (and I still don’t), so I was everywhere and nowhere, stressing myself out, feeling anxious, and even angry at myself because ‘I have to fit in some sort of box’. In other words – I have to be someone that others expect me to be.
When the truth is that I don’t have to fit in one box.
I am a human being who is more than one thing.
I can listen to one hour ‘Hare Krishna’ song and then turn on Kayne West ‘99 problems’ song and dance my heart out. I can also do a workout in the morning and eat a tub of Ben&Jery’s chocolate brownie flavour ice-cream topped with a family sized pack of peanut M&M’s, sweet popcorn and a bowl of extra cheesy chips on a side. I can be the most quiet and serious colleague at work, and never stop laughing in the evening with friends. I make smart and silly decisions. I am the most positive person, but I am not afraid to be angry or mad at the world. I love and I hate. I am all in one.
I am a human being who chooses to be more than one word description. I am a soul who chooses not to fit in one little box. You can choose that too.
Step aside and you will see that there are no set of rules or limitations of who you can be or what you can do. You don’t have to put yourself into one tiny little box and wait until you die with the hope that you will be luckier in another life (if you believe in reincarnation).
I honestly understand that sometimes it is hard to see it, because pressure from the outside world is enormous. Sometimes even unbearable. But I am 100% sure that it is even worse to live the life that somebody expects you to live, and be what someone else expects you to be.
Remember that this is your life. This is your one and only chance to experience the best of this world, so be whatever you want to be and do whatever you want to do.
‘When you make a conclusion, you close the door to life.’ – Sadhguru
Don’t trap yourself in a conclusion.
Be weird, be funny, be smart and silly. Be courageous and fearless, be loud and calm, be soft and tough. Create yourself so unbelievably magical that others would be inspired by your light and feel good to be themselves and would want to get out of their created boxes and enjoy this life.