Could you honestly admit that you know yourself and your whole life is under control?

I know this might sound silly, but just before 25th birthday I had a mental breakdown. Okay, it wasn’t like ‘just before’ it was a good month before the day. To be completely honest with you, the whole world after hitting 20s was like a blurry timeline of events that didn’t make any sense. Ups and downs, moving here and there, wobbling like a fluff whichever direction wind blew. Before my 25th birthday I realised that I have nothing. It felt like I missed out on life. 

The main thing that was worrying me, that I haven’t figured out who I am, what I want to do, where I want to be, how I can be useful in this world (I still don’t know tho). 


One day it hit me – if I want to feel good, feel happy and free with myself, I had to get to know who I am. And the main thing I realised, that  it won’t happen if I won’t ask direct questions. 

If you are still reading this, it means that you’re in the same situation like me! So here is the task for both of us – turn off all devices, take a piece of paper and a pen, sit comfortably in a chair, and write down the question (written down below) and slowly, without any rush write down a HONEST answer. I will repeat HONEST ANSWER. Not the answer that you would tell to your friend or on a date, not the answer that your aunts and uncles want to hear at an annual family gathering, or not the BS that you would tell as a politician on a debate just before the election. You need to get out of the fake shield that you cover yourself from the world, and honestly answer the questions the way you actually think and feel, doesn’t matter if it’s ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Forget that. Being open, vulnerable and honest to yourself is a main key to self-discovery.

Also, you might find these articles interesting – How To Be Alone And Happy and How To Change Your Life.

So here is 30 self discovery questions to ask yourself:

  1. Where am I and what am I doing here?
  2. What is my biggest dream?
  3. What makes me get out of bed every morning? What am I looking forward to?
  4. What do I think are the most beautiful things in the world? Why?
  5. What are five things I could not live without? Why?
  6. What is the biggest lesson I have learned from my past?
  7. What are my most important values? Do I live to fulfill them?
  8. Do I trust myself? Or do I need other people to guide me through my challenges?
  9. What would I change about myself to be happier today and in the future?
  10. What was the best and the worst advice I ever got? What did I learn from it?
  11. What makes me feel most alive?
  12. Would I rewrite my past? Why? Do I feel any past event impact now? Can I do something about it?
  13. Do I love myself? Why/why not? What can I do today to love myself more?
  14. What thoughts do I have about money? How important is money in my life?
  15. What do I think about the most? Is it making a positive or negative impact on my daily life?
  16. How do I define success? Do I do something today to achieve this success?
  17. How do I define love? Am I surrounding myself with love or avoiding it? Why?
  18. What does happiness mean to me? How can I make myself happier every day?
  19. What are the happiest and saddest moments from my childhood? Do I feel any impact on who I am and how I react to certain things today?
  20. What would I do if I knew I would live forever and money wouldn’t exist?
  21. What piece of advice would I give to a five year old myself? Why?
  22. What am I afraid of? Do I live with fear every day? How does it make me feel?
  23. What do I think about failure? What would I do if I knew you could not fail? 
  24. Who/what challenges and inspires me? 
  25. If I could do anything I want to do, what would I do?
  26. How would I describe my ideal day? Do I do anything similar right now? Why?
  27. What skills have I learned in the last five years (from work, school, friends etc.)? What skills would I like to master in the future?
  28. What self-limiting beliefs do I have? How do they impact my daily life? Can I change something about it?
  29. What’s one thing I would like to do more of? Why? Why don’t I do it?
  30. What do I believe is the meaning of my life?

No need to answer all at the same time. Take one question every day for a month. Live with the question and the answer. Let it sink deeply into your mind. I promise you will notice how much you didn’t know about yourself. It will also help you to appreciate yourself a bit more, love yourself a bit more, and maybe find something that you would like to improve! 

Life is a journey. It is all about adventures, discoveries, new experiences. Getting to know yourself will not only make you feel happier, but also might help you to find a new path that you truly want to go.

Stay curious and adventurous in your own self-discovery journey!

Let me know how it goes!

Remember to be kind to yourself.

I created a simple yet functional SELF-CARE DAILY PLANNER! This self-care-focused daily planner is a great tool to help you prioritize your well-being and track your self-care practices.

By making self-care a daily habit and tracking your progress, you can improve your mental and physical health and increase your overall happiness and well-being. 

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  1. Nikhar Avatar

    Very interesting and insightful post.


    1. findthelightt Avatar

      Thank you! I hope it helps!


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